Sunday, August 21, 2011

Reality Check #2

Don't be surprised if after God gives you a revelation, that the enemy throws a stumbling block/test in your path. In other words, are you going to answer with a but.....and try to explain yourself  or are you going to just be patient, do the best you can, and pray that in the end God will allow your heart to shine through?

So far choosing the latter, but can I just say it's NOT easy ;-)

Have a great week everyone! Remember He's got the puzzle lid, but if you look close(and listen) He'll tell you where the pieces fit best.

Reality Check

I am not a fan of reality checks, but I can safely say that since the bus wreck, I've learned to listen to them quicker and pay attention more ;-) I got a reality check last night and it stepped all over my toes. Last week was the first week of school. This year I'm in a new position, with a new schedule, and to top it all off I'm at a new school for part of the time. That in itself has stressed written all over it. So take a stressful situation and what does our flesh want to do, look around and whine and complain because others have it easier or they don't have to do as much as we do. If we look around and stay focused on what others are doing or are not doing, then we are not concentrating on what He's called us to do. It's not our job to see what's not fair in the situation, our responsibility is to do what He's called us to do and to do it to the best of our ability.

How many times would we rather stay focused on what others are doing(or not doing) instead of just doing the best we can with the task(s) we have been given? How many times do we concentrate on things we can't change instead of doing what we can towards things we can?

So back to my reality check last night....this week has worn me out mentally and physically. I'm overwhelmed with trying to get organized and get everything in place, that being said I also let a lot of what others were doing or not doing last week get to me. (How many know when we let things get to us, it will wear us out? After all that is the devil's plan to wear out the saint).  That being said, I had a choice to make last week, do the best I can with what I've been given this year, or let it get to me and become frustrated because of how I felt. Safe to say I tried to do the first, but the latter won out more. Then He gently reminded me(okay so it hurt) that I was too focused on what others were doing or not doing, that I forgot what He had called me to do. It's my job to take what I've been given(the hand I've been dealt so to speak) and make the best of it I can. Will it always be easy(NO)? Will I always get it right(Probably NOT)? Will He love me the same regardless(YEP)? See God knows our heart and as long as we are putting our best foot forward, doing the best we can, He's happy. When we do what He's called us to do, the things He helps to fall into place our amazing. After all He's got the puzzle lid, and if we will look really close there is a hint of color that will tell us where the piece fits(chances are its not where you keep thinking it will and have been trying to force it too).

Will the unfair things that found themselves in my day last week still be there this week? Probably so, because the situation hasn't changed. God just told me the way I approach it has to change. He didn't necessarily deal me the hand, but He knew the cards I held to begin with and together we always make a winning team!!

Until next time...........

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Sometimes you just have to stop..........

  breathe...and remember where He has brought you from!

 God knows my heart and He knows I let things get to me more than I should, but some days I wish others believed in some of the same things I do. So the current dialogue at this point is something like, but God it's not fair...(Yep I'm sure it made Him laugh)...I love how He gently reminds me that He never said life would be fair, He never said that things would always go our way, He never said there wouldn't be days where others would get away with things and we would be left to fix it, He never said we wouldn't feel frustrated. The choice is yours on how you react when you get frustrated. Are you going to seek revenge or realize there really isn't anything you can do about it and just deal with the best you can? Trust me the latter is not easy, and by the looks of the way this year has started it must be on my list of things to learn.

God knows how strong you are and He trusts you more than you trust yourself. We want life to be easy because then we don't have to feel the pain it takes to get stronger. If He could somehow implant everything into our heads and we could automatically "get it" then maybe things would be easier, but that's not how He made us. We are individuals and not robots, so a choice is involved. With that choice comes taking a step in one way or the other. One direction, He'll go with you, the other you are on your own(until you run back to find Him). I do believe He wishes the journey could be easier for us, but we are the ones that make it hard.

God knows my heart and He knows I am thankful for the opportunities He has given me. I'm blessed to be starting my 6th year of teaching tomorrow, but with that comes some other feelings and emotions as well. God will take care of it step by step, but I think the turtle may hide for awhile at first. He knows when you need surprises along the way and I promise you He'll take care of the encouragement you need when you need it, if you'll just trust Him. Each day last week I had a "surprise" that made me smile and I ended the week remembering where He has brought me from(that's a blog in itself). So as I enter this new year frustrations and all, some things have just got to roll off on to Him after all He's stronger than I am ;-)

Until next time...........

Monday, August 8, 2011

Get in the boat

I've heard forever it seems about getting out of your comfort zone aka stepping out of the boat. Well this weekend during one of our lovely chats(God and I), He said do you trust me enough to get in the boat and go to sleep? Remember the story where the disciples saw that it was storming out and went to wake Jesus up since they were afraid. They reacted in fear instead of rest. Jesus calmed the storms that day and questioned the disciples' faith, but I've wondered before what did they miss learning through those storms? I wonder what happened next time a storm came up...(Lesson I've learned once you go through one of those shake your faith and rock your world storms, it is a lot easier to take a breathe and trust Him to handle the next one as it comes up...(wish I could have learned it without that intense storm, but thankful for that lesson now)

It takes just as much faith to get in the boat when you can see the storm coming, as it does to get out of the boat. He didn't say the ride in the boat would be easy(how many have ever been on a boat during a storm? It's up and down and can down right make you sick), but there is a lesson to be learned in resting with Him through the storm. The storm always ends and one day you'll wake up and you are on the other side;-) It's a lesson I'm hoping to learn this round, because I definitely would rather not repeat. (Side note about storms: Storms can be something literal on the outside or it may be inside(learning to keep feelings under control, keeping the flesh in check when wronged etc.). There is a certain comfort in knowing He can stop it in an instant, but there is also a peace in knowing that's He's resting too. (In other words, if He is not worried, why should you be?)

He doesn't ask us to get in the boat because He thinks we can do it or even because we think we can do it, but He knows we can! Remember He knows more about you than you know about yourself and He trusts you with what He gives you! I've often asked Him why do you trust me so much? I sometimes think that makes Him smile.  I love that He knows me better than I know myself!

Once you learn how to get out of the boat and walk to Him, don't be surprised if He doesn't ask you to get in the boat and rest for awhile. It doesn't mean it will be easy, but He knows your heart and He knows you can handle it! Don't miss what He has planned to put in you while you rest ;-)

Until next time.......

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Goodbye Summer 2011:(

Thank you Lord for answering my requests for Summer 2011 as small as they may have seemed. I asked Him for a drama free summer(Thank you double for that one!!) and to fit into the next size jeans ;-) I know those both sound like two ends of the spectrum, but that's how my God works. It's been a great summer mixed with work and play and memories to last a lifetime. I saw my childhood crush when I went to Nashville for NKOTBSB and have experienced a new found passion for teaching teachers. I have been blessed to present at 3 locations this summer and I am praying that is just the beginning.

Saying goodbye to Summer 2011 makes me sad though because it means change is just around the corner. I am not a fan of change, but I have found that to grow change is a must. We can't grow stuck in one spot, but that doesn't mean change doesn't hurt. God knows what He has in store for this year and only He knows. You see He has the lid to this school year's puzzle and there are pieces I have still yet to turn over. **Honest side note...I'm scared...I like the pieces I have in my hand and knowing the ones I can see, but those that I still haven't turned over yet, well...just gotta trust Him.**( Being confident in Him doesn't mean you ignore what you are feeling, but you recognize that those feelings don't have to dictate who you are and what you do!). Feelings are a part of your day, but they don't have to dictate your day.

That being said, the turtle will stay out of its shell as much as possible, but there are days when it may hide. I'm still learning to be me regardless of what others think. It will come with time and patience. Just like building up stamina in the gym, it takes time before you can run a mile without stopping. It takes time to run a mile in this race without needing a break. So as I say goodbye to summer 2011 and walk into the new school year, change is in the air and change means getting out of my zone(but at the same time finding my way into His zone). Change will be good, but forgive me when I have my moments...I'll keep the turtle out as long as possible.
Until next time...

Monday, July 25, 2011

You are not an island

You are not an island otherwise known as Melissa had better blog or she is going to EXPLODE!!

Disclaimer first, I am so thankful that I've learned to sort out what I feel versus what I know and regardless of those feelings I know that at the end of the day as long as He is happy that is all that matters. That being said, I'm still flesh and still have to think out loud some days and that only causes me to doubt myself more(lesson in that think out loud with Him first). I'm tired of apologizing for what He put down inside of me and letting the enemy tie me up(see Matthew 12:29). God is not the author of frustration, confusion, or doubt(Hello brain do you get that yet????). God knows what I need and when He's ready the pieces will fall into place, that being said I'm trying really hard not to get ahead of Him but I'm such a planner and so impatient at times. I'm learning that if I miss Him, He always knows where to find me. I'm convinced it may be better to just stand still and take the pressure of the storm instead of trying to walk or move forward. Sometimes it looks like the rain is pouring down so hard that you can't see where you are going, those are the times when you just have to stand still and wait for it to pass. Some days when your mind feels like things are coming one right after another, its important to just stand still and wait for Him to whisper through. The rain is not going to last forever and the sun will come out again. There is a rainbow on the other side in due time. Feelings will mess you up, they can cause you to doubt yourself and cause you to feel discouraged and down in the dumps. It takes discipline to push through the feelings and do what you know what you should do. It takes that same discipline to not drive through Krispy Kreme when the HOT sign is on and purchase a dozen when one will suffice. It's that scripture that talks about knowing the good you should do and not doing it. (Side note...DO not, I repeat DO NOT listen to the enemy when he throws the condemnation up in your face when you mess up. God loves you despite the mess ups and He forgives and forgets). So forgive yourself when He does and FORGET about it. (Easier said then done I know...). I know I must make Him laugh most days because I collect baggage throughout the day and then dump it on Him at night after I've exhausted myself carrying it through the day. I must start dumping it on Him when it starts, which takes practice and discipline and I'm learning.

I know this isn't the typical blog, hope you got something out of it anyway. I'll be back soon with a more inspirational piece ;-) I hope you can see though as the title says You are not an island. I wish you could see inside with what I sort out some days, I'm still learning and in the molding process. I'm a lot happier with me than I used to be, and I'm growing in being okay that other people aren't. I'm letting go of that people pleasing mess, not as fast as I would like, but progress is progress. I know God has gifted me in some areas and I struggle with that because the world I live in wants me to be a cookie cutter. I just want to be me and I want others to see the value in the me He made me to be and not the me they expect me to be. I'm learning to be patient and to sow seeds. I've learned that sometimes its the storms that water those seeds. He'll make them grown in due season.

Have an amazingly blessed week! More to come soon I promise ;-)

Friday, July 1, 2011

It's just another 18 wheeler in the road

Sometimes we quote Romans 8:28 and Genesis 50:20 until we are blue in the face. We look at these verses as our get out of jail free cards also known as nothing bad can happen to me because I'm saved now etc. We have to remember what the word also says about our enemy, He really is roaming around seeking whom he may devour. If you haven't figured it out yet, the enemy wants you dead short and sweet. Some days he will use whatever means to achieve that, even an 18 wheeler in the road.

Over my 29 years I have had two days thus far, that have really rocked my core and my world. One of those was when my sister passed away, the other was July 1, 2010. The last 365 days have been a journey, some better than others. I have done my best to always wear that smile because I felt like that was what I should do(but that is a whole other blog). Most of this journey has been between me and God, because I knew He understood. There came a point though where I knew I had to have a word to start moving forward. That word was from Exodus 33:22 that says When my glory passes by, I will put you in a cleft in the rock and cover you with my hand until I have passed by. Have you ever had a verse just hit you like a ton of bricks? This was one of those for me. (***Side note, if you are reading this blog and you have NO idea what happened July 1st, google The Bowling Family bus crash). I wasn't in Exodus that day, but He led me to that verse and I just cried for awhile. See so many times we question God when things happen to us, we ask Him why and wonder why He didn't stop it. God knows us better than we know ourselves and He knows the enemy as well. I truly believe the enemy seeks after those he's scared of, but I digress.

That day we were truly put in a little cleft of the rock and covered by His hand. There was a greater war at place that day, greater things going on that no one on that bus could even see. God was up to something that only He knew about it. God kept us all safe that day. Sometimes safe doesn't always mean without scars, but safe means able to recover and move on. God knew that even with the bruises and scars, that He would get the glory. See when man looked at the pictures of the wreck, it didn't make sense. A lot of things that happened that day, defied the laws of physics, but that's God. He doesn't always do things that make sense. Can I tell you why things happened that day? Why no, but I know this regardless of how I felt that day(how I still feel about that day), He's used it for His good.

There are some days when my scars still hurt(especially with the weird weather we have had lately), but I have learned that meaning of the verse for when I am weak, He is strong. Sometimes its our scars that keep us moving forward, reminding us of where we have been, and what He has done for us. It's those scars that remind of us of the plan He has for our lives because we are still here for them to hurt ;-) Things could have turned out very differently last July 1st, but I am so thankful they didn't. I'm thankful God covered us with His hand that day, kept us safe, and has seen each of us through every day since. The journey hasn't been easy and at times it's been down right tough, but His grace is simply amazing.

Some of you may be wondering about the title of us this blog. Well along with the verse came those words from Him one day when I was no doubt telling Him(very frustratedly I'm sure) about something that I wanted Him to fix. He very calmly said that's just another 18 wheeler in the road. See I'm not the same person I was when I climbed on the bus that day. When you live through one of those days that shake your world, your faith, the core of who you are, God does something(and He is very nice to remind you of it;-)) His words were a reminder of how He had taken us through something in ours eyes that was HUGE, so why shouldn't I trust Him to take care of this little thing? Maybe you have had one of those days that has rocked your world, maybe you even still have scars that remain from that day....He took care of you then, and will take you through this. Did He say it would be easy? Well no, but working out and developing physical muscles isn't easy either. We tend to focus on those little things so much, but it is in the journey that the muscles are developed. When we take our eyes off of the hurt and keep them where they are supposed to be, we get a little stronger every day. Life is tough and honestly it doesn't seem to be getting any easier.It's our choice what we do with those 18 wheelers(those things in our lives that our thrown in our path from the enemy to mess us up).  They are life changing if we'll let Him work it out, otherwise we may find ourselves going around that same old mountain yet again.

It's just another 18 wheeler in the road I heard Him say one day,
so I closed my eyes to the day ahead and held on to His hand.
It wasn't what I wanted, but then again pain never is
I asked Him why and He just smiled and put His hand over it.
He took what He could away and helped me through the rest
Because sometimes you see it's the pain that makes us grow.

I know this is has been a longer than usual blog, but it's been a long 365 days. God has been amazing each step of the way. I truly believe He looked down the road that Thursday in July and saw what the enemy had thrown in our way. Then He moved as only He could and covered us. God never promised the road would be easy and that life would always go our way, but He did promise He'd be with us each step and that day He was. He took that 18 wheeler in the road, that thing the enemy wanted to mess us up with, and turned it around for His glory.